How can we put a timeline on our heart? Especially when time is ticking and we can die tomorrow. A famous quote by Frank Sinatra, "Live every day like it's your last!" is a mantra I am starting to learn to live by, and not just with love. You cannot put a timeline on life and love.
First let's talk about your heart and your head telling you to get out of your relationship. I know with family and circumstances it is easier said then done. However, if your heart truly needs to get out then please, get out! We always feel that things might change, or we will leave as soon as the holidays are over, etc. "As soon as...", is a form of denial, when we hope things will get better or we are just buying time. Take that trash out of your head and out of your heart! If we are supposed to live every day like it's our last, why would we want our last days to be filled with unhappiness?
I also hate it when we put a timeline on dating. "I will start to date as soon as I lose 10 pounds", "I will start to date as soon as Summer starts." Again, "as soon as", is a STALL TACTIC. Date someone right now, at 10 pounds overweight, on a rainy cold Winter, Spring or Fall night with no tan! Just go for it! Life is too short and you can be missing out on laughter, fun and possibly someone who can love you exactly the way you look on those cold seasons of the year!
Now when it comes to love, we hear noise from those around us, "don't move too fast", "take it slow", etc. This is great advice in certain aspects but NOT if you are 100% on the same page as your partner. You have to live for YOU. If you and your partner are on the road to love, just go with it. Part of taking out your trash is taking out the cackle from the peanut gallery. You and your partner are telling each other you love each other. Why would you hesitate when other people are NOT feeling what you two are feeling for each other. If and ONLY IF you and your partner are on the same page, jump in with both feet and plug your nose! There is no timeline but YOUR timeline. Don't put a schedule on your ticker, because TIME IS TICKING! Throw that calendar in the trash and love like there is NO TOMORROW!!!! ~I decided!