Hello and Happy Holidays!
As the 2016 Holiday Season is upon us we just gave thanks last week, expressed our gratitude and ate a lot of pie! We should always embrace all that we have rather than dwell on what we have lost. We also need to stop trying to control what is next.
I always say "taking out our own trash" is the practice of getting rid of the useless noise and thoughts in our head that clog our ability to make room for all that is good and exciting in our lives! However, taking out our trash does not heal us from the mess of trying to control every aspect of our lives. Our trash is our over exaggerated thoughts and beliefs twirling around in our head, trying to control us from something great that is yet to come!
If you have not heard of Pema Chodron, please look her up. She is a famous author and Buddhist nun from none other than, Connecticut, who wrote the tremendous book When Things Fall Apart. In this book, and in a famous interview with Oprah Winfrey, she talks about how your ego shuts you down for something really great to happen. She says, "I equate ego with trying to figure everything out instead of going with the flow. That closes your heart and your mind to the person or situation that's right in front of you, and you miss so much. Our ego wants to control our every move to validate what should or should not be." Also, Pema believes we should lean in and embrace exactly what is going on every hour by hour, however our ego wants to control it as a way of saying "I don't want this to be happening!" She talks about how you try to escape it in some way, but if somehow you could stay present and touch the rawness of the experience, you can really learn something.
Our problem is we are always trying to control every situation. And if we do not try to control it, our friends and family try to control it for us. We overthink, psychoanalyze and beat our brains over what might be next. The pro's, the con's, the lists. It's all trash! What is it all worth? Things WILL happen the way they are supposed to happen. Take this holiday season to embrace exactly what is in front of you, good or bad and get excited for the new year ahead! Now let's take out the trash and the control!!! See you in 2017!!!
Read more about Pema Chodron's interview with Oprah: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/oprah-winfrey-talks-to-pema-chodron#ixzz4RRbcqUd1