What exactly are words? "Words" literally means "speak". Words are a type of expression for your thoughts. What about other expressions? Like actions! There are so many songs I can think of about love and words.
"No more words! You're telling me you love me while you're looking away! No more words and no more promises of love!" -No More Words, Berlin
"Saying I love you is not the words I want to hear from you.." -More than Words, Extreme
And the list goes on and on. My point is, words are worth nothing if there are no worthy actions to back them up. Just like money is just a piece of paper, unless there are bars of precious gold to back it up. Be insightful about what the actions are behind the words. I get nuts when I see movies about abuse on my favorite network, Lifetime Movie Network! The lead has a big black eye from the punch of her husband then says "I know but he said he is sorry and he loves me." If your partner speaks empty words and empty promises of love, then he must go! I know it's easier said than done but we hang on to that junk and it just piles up and piles up. Trust me, it took 30 years to finally figure this out. Good Lord, I was hanging on to serious junk and recycling anything from sour milk to rotten eggs. I was the queen of "but he said he loved me so that’s good!" No it's not! And let me tell you, I can think right now about how someone said they loved me all the time, then repeatedly did not show up to the relationship. Those feelings were actually worse than getting punched. I would have rather gotten punched in the gut by The Rock then feel what I felt those days that men really disappointed me!
Also, there are people out there that think "something bad is going to happen" or "she might leave me!" No one is leaving as long as there are consistent examples of love, loyalty, friendship and support. I mean it is obvious. Once someone said to me years ago, "I'm afraid you're going to leave me." Back then I was a sucker and assured him I wasn't going anywhere. What I realize now is, I should have left because he was not even nice to me. Now, if that ever happens again and I am faced with "I'm afraid you are going to leave me", my response will be "well, if you don't show me with friendship, loyalty and love that should be between us then yes I will absolutely leave so check yourself! If you are not doing any of those things and displaying the basic actions, yes you're done!" BAMM, END, BYE!
I would love to hear your thoughts on this and please, comment with some songs about words and promises of love that I may have forgot!
~ Antonia Ragozzino
~Author, Taking Out The Trash